Let’s be honest: what do you have absolute certainty about?
I find it interesting how we move through life with somnambulistic certainty. We drive our cars even though we are actually in permanent mortal danger, we fly in airplanes (if any fly) as if it were the most normal thing in the world for people to travel by air and we even expose ourselves to the dangers of road traffic more or less unprotected on our bicycles. We don’t even think about the dangers. The underlying goal, namely to be mobile, outweighs the possibility of an accident in which we could be injured.
Of course, I don’t want to deny that there are people who suffer from a fear of flying or driving, but what I want to write about today is about the fears that hold us back in life.
Who hasn’t experienced this? How often do you let yourself be so impressed by what is not yet that you become afraid of your own life? To be honest, isn’t it a bit strange when you look at your life and see everything you have already achieved? The apparent lightning amnesia that strikes you when you suddenly look fearfully towards the horizon, when you have just climbed up a steep rock face.
Uncertainty in the outside world is best countered with inner security. Inner security comes, for example, from inner peace and the confidence that you have a place and a task in this world.
Security, calm and trust are inner resources, for example.
Resources are strengths that are often not really consciously recognized and yet are used as a matter of course on a daily basis, especially when things are not going so well.
It is important to take time to reflect and recognize yourself and your own strengths, otherwise you may become convinced that you will not be able to cope with the uncertainties that await you in the future. Whether it’s that you won’t be able to find another job or new customers for your product or service, or simply that you won’t be able to maintain your standard of living in old age.
In an increasingly complex world in which validity is subject to a vanishing half-life, it is good to have done good work on yourself. Nothing is more dangerous than overestimating yourself, but nothing is more paralyzing than underestimating yourself.
Observe yourself. Do you rely more on yourself or on others? Do you approach others, or do you let whoever take the lead? Do you listen to what others tell you or do you do your own research to get a more accurate picture? How well can you deal with frustration and defeat? What gives you support?
Take some time to play a little game. Next to each letter from A to Z, write down a resource that you have used in the past to solve difficult situations or that you can imagine using in the future.
If you want to go even further, you can continue the exercise by using the SMART approach to combine the resources into an active solution based on a specific topic. This could look like this, for example:
Problem/desire: I am very busy at work all week and am looking for a way to do more sport in the fresh air again without putting too much strain on my knee. I would like to cycle more with my friends again so that I can switch off from my stressful job and enjoy nature.
Specifically, I now cycle with my friends every Saturday afternoon. It’s a fixed date. I can measure this by actually doing it week after week. It seems attractive to me because I can switch off wonderfully, see my friends and also lose some weight. It’s realistic because I’ve never done anything specific on Saturday afternoons and therefore have time. My goal is scheduled because the first round has already been arranged.
So, have you already cracked the first problem situation?
If you would like to find out more about how you can build resilience and inner security, just write to me or arrange a first opportunity talk on my website! I look forward to hearing from you!
Yours
Regina Reitinger
