Today I'm coming up with a topic that we don't really like to deal with. Fear. Have you ever asked yourself what stops you from doing things that you admire so much in others?
You just don't dare.
And why not?
Because you’ve never done it (successfully) before.
So there is simply no, or no positive memory of it.
Only negative memories, or memories that are stored as ‘negative’, together with the limiting self-attributions from this situation.
These negative memories have developed a protective mechanism for you that you trust. You also feel this physically.
Sensations that we perceive physically are very real for us and because fear simply doesn’t feel good and is hard to ignore, we try to avoid it.
Imagine this,
- you want to take on a new challenge, but your inner voice is holding you back
- you want to meet new people, but the fear of rejection prevents you from taking the first step, or
- you dream of a change in your life, but the fear of failure makes you hesitate.
If you want something so badly but something inside you still manages to hold you back, then it must be a very strong force.
By the way, ruminating and brooding are symptoms of fears.
So if you thought this would help you find a solution, forget it. Forget it.
What you are missing is the positive experience and the memory of it, as well as an awareness of your resources and resilience.
It is important to realise that fears stem from old patterns and experiences that protected you in the past. However, in many cases they are no longer necessary today and prevent you from realising your full potential.
By strengthening your trust in yourself and the world around you, you can overcome these fears and courageously and naturally break new ground.
If you have any further questions on the topic or need support with your individual situation, let’s talk.
Here is another blog article about how you can understand people better.
