In our fast-paced and hectic world, it is often difficult to focus on our own goals and needs. We are constantly influenced by external influences and expectations, be it from our family, friends, employers or society in general. But how important is it to pursue our own goals and not be guided solely by external goals? In this blog article, we will take a closer look at the concepts of self-goals and external goals and find out how we can master the art of self-determination.
What are personal goals?
Personal goals are the individual goals that we set ourselves based on our personal values, interests and ambitions. They represent what is really important to us and what drives us. Self-goals are an expression of our authenticity and enable us to develop our full potential.
Why are personal goals important?
Self-goals are important because they give us a clear direction and purpose in our lives. When we focus on our own goals, we can lead a more fulfilling and satisfying life. By considering our own values and needs, we can make our decisions more consciously and align our actions with our inner motivation.
Challenges in the pursuit of personal goals:
However, the pursuit of personal goals can be associated with various challenges. External influences and expectations often stand in our way. Social norms, family or work pressures can lead us to be guided by external goals. It can be difficult to summon up the courage to swim against the tide and pursue our own dreams.
What are external goals?
External goals are goals that are set for us by other people or institutions. They are often based on the expectations and wishes of others, whether in a professional or private context. External goals can depend on external rewards or recognition and sometimes divert us from our actual path. These can also be unconsciously pursued since childhood without us realizing that they were actually set by our parents.
Finding the balance:
It is important to find a healthy balance between self-goals and external goals. External goals can help us to integrate into social structures and support us in achieving professional or personal milestones. However, they must not take top priority in our lives, as this can lead to dissatisfaction and a feeling of emptiness. By not neglecting our own goals and making conscious decisions, we can take into account both our own needs and the expectations of others.
Tips for self-determination:
- Self-reflection: take time to find out what is really important to you
- Set clear priorities: Identify your own goals and prioritize them in your life.
- Communication: Talk openly with your loved ones and colleagues about your goals to gain understanding and support.
- Set boundaries: Learn to say “no” and respect your own needs, even if it means disappointing others.
- Flexibility: Be willing to adjust and adapt your goals as your priorities change over time.
Conclusion:
The art of self-determination lies in pursuing our own goals as well as considering the expectations of others. By being aware of who we are and what we really want, we can live a fulfilled and authentic life. It takes courage, determination and self-reflection to follow your own path, but the rewards are worth it. So, listen to your inner voice, set your goals and boldly walk your own path!
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Yours
Regina Reitinger 🙂
